Yesterday I met with a Stylist Owner and she mentioned that exact phrase, “It’s always something…” It made me think of ways we often sabotage ourselves – subconsciously, without even realizing it. There are several Stylist who were interested in making some significant changes in their careers back in the fall and thought that my program, 90 Days to WOW! would be able to help them.
They told me, “I’m not ready to get started now, but check back with me in a month”. When I followed up with them, what do you think I heard? “I was going to get started, but…” You can fill in the blanks with “the kids…”, “an unexpected expense came up”, or any number of things that kept them from moving forward.
Obviously there are times when what’s in front of you must be attended to, but when ‘it’s ALWAYS something’, when there’s every reason in the world, not to get started now, that’s when it’s time to see what’s really going on.
When everyone and everything else comes first, what happens to your dreams and goals? They get pushed to the back burner! AND time keeps moving. I mentioned those conversations started back in the fall of 2013. We had about 90 days til the end of 2013 and now we’ve completed the first 90 days of 2014. That’s 6 months and NOTHING has changed? When will it be the right time?
What I can tell you is that by waiting for that perfect moment,
where the seas part and the angels sing and there’s nothing else going on in your life, will assure that you will never reach your goals!
So why do we let these things get in the way and what can we do?
- Recognize that there may be some fear in reaching that next level. What we know is familiar. What we want lives somewhere out in the unknown! Even though we think it will make our lives better, it’s still scary! There’s a great book you may want to check out, it’s called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
- Give up perfectionism! It comes in handy to be a perfectionist when we are cutting or styling hair or applying make-up in our professions. But often we procrastinate – yes I did use the ‘P’ word – because we fear we won’t do it well. Can you still hear your mom saying, “If you can’t do it right, don’t do it at all”? That doesn’t even really work for housekeeping, let alone the rest of the things we need to take care of on a daily or weekly basis. www.Flylady.net says ‘Housework done imperfectly still blesses your home’! She gives us permission to just vacuum in the middle of the floor if that’s all we have time for. The house still looks better. Not perfect, but better. We can borrow some of that wisdom from her.
- You may need to get help with some things you’re procrastinating with. I mentioned the Stylist I met with yesterday. She said one of her biggest blocks was Procrastination. When we looked at one of the things she was procrastinating with, it was keeping up with her numbers/bookkeeping. When I asked her if she liked doing it, she said not really, but once she got started it really didn’t take that long. Since having her numbers is so important to running her business, I suggested a few things. 1) getting some help, maybe a college student or inexpensive Bookkeeper to come in once a week? 2) maybe she could meet with another business owner and they each work on their numbers together, for accountability or 3) maybe just bookend the task with someone by phone, call them when you start and then when you finish, again for accountability. Acknowledging that it’s not her strength and having some ‘easy’ options for gaining support, made a daunting task seem very manageable.
- Sometimes you just have to ‘Leap and grow your wings on the way down’! I heard Les Brown say that years ago and it stuck with me. Some magical things happen when you simply make a commitment. Put your stake in the ground and say, no matter what happens, I need to work on my dreams and goals, NOW! Then trust that the Universe is big enough to keep going even if you take a few minutes (or hours or days) for you! After all, I believe we were all sent here for a purpose, each of us, including you!
So next time ‘Something’ comes up, tell it to ‘hold on’!
Keep reaching for the Stars,
Salon Business Coach
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Miki Wright , three time Salon Today 200 honoree, is the founder of www.BeautySuperStars.com, which provides training and tools to help Beauty Professionals fill their chairs and work smarter to create a life and business they love. She is regarded as a Leader in the Beauty Industry; from her work as a highly respected Hair Designer and Platform Artist, Competitor, Educator, Mentor, and a Business Coach who gets results. At the top of the list of many honors and awards, she was the youngest recipient of the Bronner Bros. “Legend Award”. Wright was the owner of Fabulous Finishes Salon and Day Spa, one of the first African-American owned Salon and Day Spas in the country! Her Salon and Spa was featured in Essence and Washingtonian Magazines, the Washington Post and was selected by Salon Today Magazine as one of the “200 Fastest Growing Salons in the Country” – for three (3) consecutive years!!!
As a Market Trainer for Ulta Beauty, she led her Salon team and District to several National honors. She has consulted with Soft Sheen-Carson as an Educator and as their Salon Business Coach. Wright, who is also an Author, with more than 25 years’ experience isnow committed to empowering Stylists and other Beauty Professionals to better serve their clients and create a life and business they love!